Most funerals include a eulogy where a friend or relative says a few inspiring words about the deceased. It’s the ideal opportunity to say a poignant farewell and celebrate your loved one. We know that writing and delivering a eulogy can be daunting so here are 5 tips for writing an authentic and effective eulogy:
- Keep it brief. When we lose someone near to us we can be overwhelmed by an ocean of memories about the times we spent together. While it may seem impossible to tell their story in a few short paragraphs it’s best to keep whatever you have to say brief.
- Remember it’s not your eulogy. Sometimes when giving a eulogy the presenter gets lost in his or her relationship with the deceased. While that's understandable, personalising the event isn’t necessarily what the congregation of mourners wants to hear.
- Include some humour or something light. Part of providing a eulogy can be delivering a few words about the deceased that unite your audience in a warm, pleasant, or humorous remembrance.
- Be inclusive. As you prepare your remarks ahead of the service, consider who is likely to be present and how you could include them in your words.
Help the deceased to speak. Capturing the real spirit or personality of the deceased in a few words isn’t easy but is the essence of a good eulogy. Consider adding lines from their favourite poem or song.
